Today, a fellow traveller on this road posted on the Ship of Fools website (www.ship-of-fools.com) that she had been turned down at BAP, at least for the time being. She has taken it with great peace and maturity. But it’s a sobering reminder of what any of us may have to face. It’s also an important caveat to something I’ve been meaning to share.
Nevertheless, I think the following is worth knowing. Not long ago, in an idle internet moment, I came across some advice written by a bishop’s selector / adviser for those attending BAP from a particular diocese. I have annoyingly not been able to find it again or I’d include a link. However, I can remember what it said.
According to this document, the main reasons people fail at BAP are:
1. being unthinkingly dogmatic, not giving evidence of a thoughtful faith
2. being a very new Christian (under 12 months) and giving the impression of it being their latest fad
3. lack of interest in / engagement with the wider world, current affairs etc.
4. sloppiness in filling in the forms (!)
5. persuading their DDO to let them have a go against the DDO’s own advice (!!)
This are important points to note, but overall I found this pretty reassuring. The implication was that these people should never have been sent to BAP or should have been better prepared by their dioceses. I’d almost managed to convince myself that a responsible DDO such as the one here would never set someone up for a fall in this way.
But today’s news is an important if unwelcome reminder that it can happen to anyone. I don’t know the individual personally, but nothing about her suggests any of the above failings. Proper discernment and preparation should weed out most of those obvious faults, but when it comes down to it the bishop’s advisers can still disagree with the professional opinion of an experienced DDO, two vocations advisers and an examining chaplain indeed that’s their job.
The other important point about this individual’s experience is that she’s been advised to work on some areas and come back in a year. Whilst this is obviously very positive for her, since the door is not closed, it’s concerning in another way. The DDO and others involved in selection are anxious to point out that they’re looking for potential, not perfection. But the answer is very often not yet – which implies, yes you have the potential, but we want you to do more on your own before we’ll take you on. Which just adds another layer of risk and uncertainty to the whole process.
Pray for all those who are going through this.